"I would rather have thirty minutes of wonderful than a lifetime of nothing special." - Steel Magnolias
This summer I lost my grandmother unexpectedly. She was a friend to many, a wife, a grandmother, and a mom. One of her best friends created a quilt out of my Nanny's sweatshirts. I hold it so dear to me and LOVE the smell. It still hurts my heart every time I breathe in the smell but it is a scent I will always cherish and never forget.
A good friend of mine also lost someone dear to her this past summer, her father to her two sons, her best friend... her husband. Plans were made, dreams were dreamed, life was set until one day the unexpected happened.
We all know that time goes by in a quick blink of an eye. Whether life is going pleasantly, sadness is occurring, or we are just in the hustle and bustle, time flies. However, in each blink we take, a picture or memory is shown behind our eyelids that sometimes, hurts so badly we no longer want to blink or close our eyes. Sometimes, when the unexpected happens, our eyes become so dry from the lack of sleep or the desire to hold our blinks... then the pain enters all over again.
When I heard the news about my friend losing her husband I called my mom in tears. I could not understand why this was happening and remember asking, "how on earth could I handle this or raise my kids if I had to go through what my friend was experiencing?" My mom reminded me that women are made of steel. We have an instinct that men do not have. We have the toughness and strength of steel when it comes to family, hard times, and sad times. However, we also have the loving tenderness and inner beauty that shines through. We know that we have to persevere...for the sake of our children, and that is exactly what my friend is doing.
My friend is made of steel. She lives each day with a mission. I cannot even imagine how she feels every day. I can't imagine how it feels to go home. I can't imagine how it feels to look at her two handsome babies. She is doing it and doing it so very strongly. She is a role model for me and I will forever cherish her and her strength and love for her sweet boys.
Tonight moms, I cannot help but to send out a reminder to keep that steel in your blood. Be the strength for your kids. I also think it is important that we remember that it is okay to cry and breakdown. We are not Superwoman (even though we have to act like it at times). Just like the burlap....we are vulnerable, and that is OK! We can turn it on and off....and that is okay too. Just like water spigots....when we are on we are on! Show those babies how much you love them, do your day to day activities and jobs. I do however, think it is okay to have the moment where we need to turn it off. Have a "me" time and know that it is okay to cry, it is okay to scream. We are steel in front of people but when we look at our hearts, we are a big magnolia flower that has our withering moments... but we are still beautiful.
My repurpose for today: Know that it is okay to have my "off" moments.
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